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Wedding Toasts

Wedding Toasts

First a You Tube favorite, then our suggestions and links to some outstanding Internet resources.

Schedule the toasts for after dinner or after the cake cutting (we prefer after dinner since people tend to stray off later in the evening).

Typical toasting order:
  • Best Man
  • Groom's Father
  • Bride's Father
  • Groom
  • Bride
  • Friends and Relatives
  • Maid/Matron of Honor
  • Groom's Mother
  • Bride's Mother
  • Anyone else

This is a long list and we have been to many wedding where all these folks do toast and it can take quite a while. Our suggestion, keep the list short and schedule it ahead of time, then making room for any in the moment sentiments.

The most important thing to remember when giving a toast at a wedding is to keep you audience in mind and practice it aloud beforehand (remember that timing is everything)!
  • Stand up!
  • Introduce yourself
  • Have your toast pre written and have your notes!
  • Raise you glass to begin.
  • Speak Up!
  • Make eye contact!
  • Keep it relevant, clean and positive!
  • Don't talk about the ex's!
  • Don't be sauced, speak it, don't slur it!
  • Keep it around 3 minuets (typically).
  • Raise you glass at the end, nod to the couple and drink!

Links to advice on giving wedding toast and speeches

The history about the toast can be found here at Wikipedia.
A Toast To Your Wedding has wonderful advice, lots of it!
Need professional help? Try here at!
Keep and Share is a reliable resource, check here. has some great tips and guidance!
Wedding Speak and Toast Tips is an excellent resource for anyone!
Give the perfect Toast! A great article and suggestions here at Wedding Details.
Toasting Tips by Suzanne Lieurance on Bliss Weddings has a handful of suggestions. Read those here.

The real bummer is that there are all sorts of links out there to professional speech writers. We do not think this is necessary.
Below are some of our favorite books available. Order them here or check them out of your local library!

Good luck & well wishes!

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